The only thing that has to be considered at right time and not really the right age is 'Marriage'. Marriage requires lot of maturity, many of you will agree with me, surely it doesn't come with right age only. For some marriage is a necessity due to illness of parents, last wish of parents(this is surely blackmailing of parents :) ), no one to take care of you or you really need a someone in your life to balance your life. For wrong intention people marriage is a way of earning(rather looting people in terms of dowry).
For those who marry for dowry, that relation doesn't last long because the intention was super wrong. One should never ask for Money/Gold/Car in marriage, come on man have some respect for your self, don't sell your self. If you have taken it as an important part of your marriage ceremony, do return it after the ceremony, these things will not last long.
Marriage is meant for sharing beautiful moments of your life 'BEING TOGETHER'. Marriage is meant for sharing love, happiness, sorrow. Marriage is like the two wheels of a bullock-cart, if either of the wheel is not in proper condition then ofcourse its not impossible to move ahead but surely difficult to move further smoothly. In some people's life marriage is a colorful journey, they enjoy every phase of their life, for some it brings bruises and shows colors more than a rainbow and gives them sour taste.
As per one of the priest, Marriage is all good but sometimes bring bitter taste and proceeds towards divorce when involvement of parents becomes more in it. It is not that parents always give wrong solutions, but when the person discuss something about his/her family or house with parents the solution sometimes given by their parents is in SQUARE format and the way in which you explained them was in CIRCULAR format. So the issue is what you explained, what they understood and what
solution they provided. This is where mess starts, taking the wrong solution applying it where it was not necessary or rather not needed. Now the suspicion starts about your spouse, though which was not there earlier and so now in every situation / discussion you try apply that solution. The relation between your husbands mother and your husband comes to a toss. Every time he talks something about his mother, he is taken in a wrong way and called as 'Mamma's Boy' and ofcourse becomes a matter of quarrel. Here goes the lines: "Dibbe ki wo do rotiyaan kahi bhi bikti nahi, Maa....hotel ke khane se aaj bhi bhuk mitti nahi".
Marriage sometimes becomes a reason for separation from your own parents. The woman whom you got into your house for happiness, sometimes you feel is the reason for your house separation, but truly speaking its not because of the woman.......its because of the MISUNDERSTANDING between HUSBAND and WIFE :( Understanding each other is very important in marriage, marriage is not about compatibility of each other but it is more of reading each others heart out, these lines should find proper meaning in this situation: "Sikh raha hu abb main bhi insaano ko padhne ka hunar, suna hai chehre pe kitaabon se jyada likha hota hai".
See how Qur'an explains Love Between Husband and Wife:"Your wives are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them." ( Qur'an 2:187), which should surely mean, A husband and wife should love each other, adorn each other, cover up each others faults. They should not taunt each other, or expose their faults publicly. They should complement each other and support each other. Not hate each other or spread rumor's about each other. So short, so beautiful explanation. Subhan Allah!
Some line's from the bible,for both the man and woman:
"Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD." Proverbs 19:14
"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."- Mark 10:9
Which means when you first enter into marriage, the last thing you are thinking about is divorce! But, through the years of being together, you may enter times of hardship and trails that threaten your relationship. If this is ever the case, allow God's word come into play. You have been joined together under God, don't let anyone or anything separate your love for each other.
Last but not the least, quotes from Sri Guru Granth Sahib, "They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together. Rather they alone are called husband and wife, who have one soul in two bodies." (Guru Amar Das, Pauri, pg. 788)
To me marriage is a very beautiful sense, to me its more about one's sacrifice for other. You sacrifice for your spouse because you love, care, respect your spouse. If you have not done it then try it for sure, you will find a lot of improvement and healthy relation in your married life.
Just ending it with light and funny note, for which many married people will nod their heads :), though truly speaking there is nothing serious about it, but just fun intended:
"Kitni maasum si khwahish thi iss nadan dil ki, jo chahta tha ki.....SHAADI bhi karu aur ..KHUSH bhi rahu :) "
-Sanjay Nikalje
Please do not take it personally, above write-up is intended for reading purpose only.
