Divorce a comma or a full-stop!!
Here I am talking about Divorce a decision taken in anger and ego and not of a divorce decision, which if not taken would have resulted in danger to life and health of the person.Divorce is just a legal dissolution of marriage and not emotional. How can one forget those good memories which two bodies and one soul shared together.This is not among my favorite topics, but I propose the target audience for this should be both married and unmarried men and women.
In my last article Marriage- Part 2, I mentioned some of the quarrel instances(of-course not all), so I don't want to talk on this, rather shed some light on life after divorce.
Well its very easy to marry and also to say 'I want divorce from you' are easy to murmur in husband-wife tiff. For some marrying more than once is nothing less than a chest-swelling instance. For some it is easy to get galvanized with friends or relatives comments to go ahead with divorce for petty husband-wife quarrels. I think its time to come out of those maverick shoes.
Take it from me, life is havoc after that, a true shattered life, whose aftermaths are seen much after the real incident. I feel its very important to discuss, well not to educate people technically, but mentally. I want people to know and understand the outcome of a short-lived wrong decision.
Couples living and working in cities and metros, are exposed to more economic and relationship options, which prompted them to break out of unsatisfactory or unequal marriages. People might have various reasons to go ahead with decision, but the aftermaths are more worse than one could really think of. A divorce is not just a dissolving of a personal relationship. Since marriage is a social institution, its dissolution has far-reaching consequences on the whole family. And these consequences are both emotional and financial. The worst sufferers of divorce are women, who are not only find themselves bereft of the means to acquire basic necessities like food, clothing and shelter, but are also left to take care of the children from a broken marriage.
From the girls point of view, it becomes a matter of huge concern for her parents, well though parents might have helped her to come out of a unhappy marriage knot. The parents condition are more worse than what their condition was when that girl was unmarried for many years. People ask several questions, why, what,when, blah..blah..blah!! This is what not they wanted to witness in their old age. The matter become more critical when the divorced girl also has a child to take care of from that marriage.
Another aspect of divorce which leads to a great deal of emotional trauma and legal complication, is child custody. This is because divorce entails the breakdown of the entire family. The child is not only separated from one of the parents, but may also lose other siblings and the wider extended family.
For those on whom marriage was imposed or who really had suffocative or awful experience of marriage, divorce for them is really act as oxygen packet. It stands as a comma of new beginning in their life in terms of career or personal life.
For those, for whom marriage was a blessed institution of love, care, respect and belongingness, for those a hard decision of this type literally adds a full-stop to their social life, as people pounce on them with various questions of their unsuccessful falter knot and unwanted suggestion. I really don't know whether Divorce is a full-stop(.) or a comma(,)?
-Sanjay Nikalje
Note: Please do not take above content personally, its meant for reading purpose only. Readers might have a different views but above content is solely based on writers view. If you have any suggestion or comment, please feel free to update with a comment.
Here I am talking about Divorce a decision taken in anger and ego and not of a divorce decision, which if not taken would have resulted in danger to life and health of the person.Divorce is just a legal dissolution of marriage and not emotional. How can one forget those good memories which two bodies and one soul shared together.This is not among my favorite topics, but I propose the target audience for this should be both married and unmarried men and women.
In my last article Marriage- Part 2, I mentioned some of the quarrel instances(of-course not all), so I don't want to talk on this, rather shed some light on life after divorce.
Well its very easy to marry and also to say 'I want divorce from you' are easy to murmur in husband-wife tiff. For some marrying more than once is nothing less than a chest-swelling instance. For some it is easy to get galvanized with friends or relatives comments to go ahead with divorce for petty husband-wife quarrels. I think its time to come out of those maverick shoes.
Take it from me, life is havoc after that, a true shattered life, whose aftermaths are seen much after the real incident. I feel its very important to discuss, well not to educate people technically, but mentally. I want people to know and understand the outcome of a short-lived wrong decision.
Couples living and working in cities and metros, are exposed to more economic and relationship options, which prompted them to break out of unsatisfactory or unequal marriages. People might have various reasons to go ahead with decision, but the aftermaths are more worse than one could really think of. A divorce is not just a dissolving of a personal relationship. Since marriage is a social institution, its dissolution has far-reaching consequences on the whole family. And these consequences are both emotional and financial. The worst sufferers of divorce are women, who are not only find themselves bereft of the means to acquire basic necessities like food, clothing and shelter, but are also left to take care of the children from a broken marriage.
From the girls point of view, it becomes a matter of huge concern for her parents, well though parents might have helped her to come out of a unhappy marriage knot. The parents condition are more worse than what their condition was when that girl was unmarried for many years. People ask several questions, why, what,when, blah..blah..blah!! This is what not they wanted to witness in their old age. The matter become more critical when the divorced girl also has a child to take care of from that marriage.
Another aspect of divorce which leads to a great deal of emotional trauma and legal complication, is child custody. This is because divorce entails the breakdown of the entire family. The child is not only separated from one of the parents, but may also lose other siblings and the wider extended family.
For those on whom marriage was imposed or who really had suffocative or awful experience of marriage, divorce for them is really act as oxygen packet. It stands as a comma of new beginning in their life in terms of career or personal life.
For those, for whom marriage was a blessed institution of love, care, respect and belongingness, for those a hard decision of this type literally adds a full-stop to their social life, as people pounce on them with various questions of their unsuccessful falter knot and unwanted suggestion. I really don't know whether Divorce is a full-stop(.) or a comma(,)?
-Sanjay Nikalje
Note: Please do not take above content personally, its meant for reading purpose only. Readers might have a different views but above content is solely based on writers view. If you have any suggestion or comment, please feel free to update with a comment.
